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A friend and I were talking recently about how old hurts and insecurities can pop up when we least expect them, even when we thought we had worked through them and moved on. As I was pondering this conversation later, I realized that I have fallen into an old pattern of reacting to difficult situations in my life by withdrawing from those around me.
Looking back over the life of this blog, I can see that I started out just sharing my heart. I have always tried to keep things positive, in the sense of not speaking badly about other people or spouting off about everything like some of the bloggers I have encountered along the way (not you, of course, but they are out there!). But somewhere along the way, I think I have gone too far the other way, using my desire to not be perceived as a whiner to justify not sharing what was really going on with me until I have gotten through it and can package it all up nicely.
I did this when my son was born three weeks early and had some complications. Instead of just telling those close to me what was happening and letting them help us, I instinctively pulled in and tried not to let anyone know what we were dealing with. The fact that I was dealing with severe postpartum depression only made it harder to reach out as time went on.
My son’s autism diagnosis at 33 months was a real kick in the pants, and I have become a much stronger and more open person since then, but I think the difference is that it is for him. I can make myself do things on his behalf that I wouldn’t do for myself.
So I don’t have any grand conclusions to tie this all together, but just wanted to say that I am not going to be so worried about what image I am presenting here. There may be whining and there may be more questions than answers, but that’s the only way it’s going to be worth continuing to post anything at all.
I'm a mom with Asperger's raising an amazing son with autism, which means I'm basically the case manager/advocate/cheerleader/chauffeur. The rest of the time, you can usually find me with my nose in a book!
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I love the real you Trish, every bit of it. I love when you share about your journey as a mom, your journey with Michael and everything in between!
Keep sharing!
.-= Livin’´s last blog ..A Beautiful Let Down =-.
I love the real you Trish, every bit of it. I love when you share about your journey as a mom, your journey with Michael and everything in between!
Keep sharing!
.-= Livin’´s last blog ..A Beautiful Let Down =-.
Sharing the real stuff can be hard — I know, I find it very hard to do. The end result is I don’t get the support I would like and/or need. There is a big difference in whining about all those who you see as not doing things right and discussing what you feel is appropriate and what is being suggested. (Sounds good doesn’t it) My almost 7-year-old son (next week:-) was diagnosed with austism at 30-months, after he was adopted at 27 -months.
Good luck with being the “real you” — it provides support to those who read who also want to do the same.
Sharing the real stuff can be hard — I know, I find it very hard to do. The end result is I don’t get the support I would like and/or need. There is a big difference in whining about all those who you see as not doing things right and discussing what you feel is appropriate and what is being suggested. (Sounds good doesn’t it) My almost 7-year-old son (next week:-) was diagnosed with austism at 30-months, after he was adopted at 27 -months.
Good luck with being the “real you” — it provides support to those who read who also want to do the same.
Everyone needs an outlet and that is what I love about blogging. The great thing here is when we start complaining about IEP’s and school the other Moms get it and can offer some great advice.
Everyone needs an outlet and that is what I love about blogging. The great thing here is when we start complaining about IEP’s and school the other Moms get it and can offer some great advice.
While no one likes to read the whines of a whiner day in and day out (and I certainly wouldn’t EVER classify you as this type of blogger), letting your guard down every once in awhile reminds everyone you’re only human. I think that’s refreshing and comforting to a lot of people.
.-= Lis Garrett´s last blog ..at least i’m not a jerkwad =-.
While no one likes to read the whines of a whiner day in and day out (and I certainly wouldn’t EVER classify you as this type of blogger), letting your guard down every once in awhile reminds everyone you’re only human. I think that’s refreshing and comforting to a lot of people.
.-= Lis Garrett´s last blog ..at least i’m not a jerkwad =-.
i like the real Trish
Trust that we will want to know the real things
And also a VERY important part of blogging for me is to keep a recprd of my life and that is very useful
.-= k- floortime lite mama´s last blog ..Weekly round up W/O Oct 1 =-.
i like the real Trish
Trust that we will want to know the real things
And also a VERY important part of blogging for me is to keep a recprd of my life and that is very useful
.-= k- floortime lite mama´s last blog ..Weekly round up W/O Oct 1 =-.
Rats! We get to carve-out this nice little space in cyberspace and THEN we have to put a face on it? *wink*
Rats! No reality in virtu-reality?
Rats! You mean you are only human, too?
Well, that settles it. I’ll just have to come back more often.
.-= Barbara´s last blog ..Getting To Stand =-.
I’ve been struggle with this very thing. I was thinking just today maybe I shouldn’t write so much about Autism and my tough days with my little bug but just seeing I’m not the only struggling with whether or not to blog about our daily struggles really helps me. I certainly don’t want my life to seem all bad cause it isn’t but there are a lot of tough days to get through. Keep your blog real. I’ll keep coming back.
.-= Nanette´s last blog ..What I Love About Blogging =-.
I’ve been struggle with this very thing. I was thinking just today maybe I shouldn’t write so much about Autism and my tough days with my little bug but just seeing I’m not the only struggling with whether or not to blog about our daily struggles really helps me. I certainly don’t want my life to seem all bad cause it isn’t but there are a lot of tough days to get through. Keep your blog real. I’ll keep coming back.
.-= Nanette´s last blog ..What I Love About Blogging =-.
Thank you all for the support. Knowing there is such a great group of encouraging people online is a big motivation for me to keep reaching out.
Thank you all for the support. Knowing there is such a great group of encouraging people online is a big motivation for me to keep reaching out.